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Sunday, September 29, 2013

POSITIVE THINGS happening at the end of the long MILDEW Tunnel....fingers crossed!

Sunday, September 29, 2013

It is George V's birthday today. He was every inch a libra, and easy for this scorpio to live with. He would have been 67 today. That is something good about dying young: you are always remembered as that 48 year old 'young' man. He will never age. Interesting price to pay for that privilege.

Everything has its price.

So, I spoke lots about knowing something Monday. But, Monday happened, and I am no more 'all knowing' than I was a week ago. A hygenist has been recommended: Of course, I had that appointment set up 10 days ago and decided to defer with my insurance claims experts. I forgot one detail in my naivete and in being quite frankly: OVERWHELMED. Insurance companies are you friend as long as you keep paying the premium. However, once you file a claim, that insurance company becomes your adversary.

How silly of me.

I love my 3 comments on my Blog. I really like getting them, particularly if they are positive. perhaps: only when or because they are positive.......

but, why would someone posit an anonymous comment? Why shouldn't I have the same privilege to know who I am reading, as they do when they read my blog? Hmmm. keep cheering me on "anonymous"... but, remain still curious on why anonymous?

That being said: I know I am perceived as being strong. Perhaps that is true. Perhaps that is part perception. It doesn't matter. What matters is that EVEN STRONG people want to feel like it is OKAY to NOT FEEL STRONG, or to NOT BE STRONG for a few moments in time.

I haven't a clue on why I am feeling overwhelmed, but know on some level: i am out of my depth and comfort zone. When, on the rare occasion that happens: there is good reason for my 'overwhelmedness'.

Had a great dinner with my friend John (George V's oldest childhood friend) and his lady, Meg. She is my new friend and a dear lady. She is beautiful, darling, bright, articulate, NICE, as she is from OHIO. They make nice folks in OHIO. Saw their 'condo' on the beach: quite wonderful and easy to beach walk. ground floor...... mostly rennovated for an OLD Siesta CONDO. The furniture all looked too big, too dark and too bulky- too many animal prints and too much brown and olive green. Color so impacts me, and lack of it usually depresses me. It was a bit 'matchy' matchy. I am so NOT a matchy matchy kinda gal.

Hopefully, we will go swimming in the Gulf today! That is my plan and fantasy for a perfect day.

I did get some GREAT NEWS. POSITIVE. UPBEAT NEWS! A high powered agent who does NOT take on new writers, has agreed to read part of my manuscript, thanks to my MENTOR, David. He did some sweet-talking to his old pal, the agent.... and it is because of his faith in my project, that I was honored with his CHEERING my work on, and it is because of HER respect of him, that I am being given this opportunity.

This could be BIG. If she doesn't go wild and crazy over my manuscript- she has a wonderful sphere of influence, and might point me in the right direction. David was EXCITED about that news, so that too, is meaningful. Thank you AGENT, and thank you DAVID.... fingers crossed.

Smiles for this Sunday,

Judy



Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Rainy days and Tuesdays

Tuesday, September another something or other day 2013

Rain. Thunder, Rolling growls in the gray skies. Thick bulbeous rain drops. Far too many in some areas of Siesta Key, where the water had WAVES in it! Cars were stranded in front of the Public Beach!

I thought to myself: OH NO! Not this. I am NOT GETTING STRANDED! Luck would have it as a good story line in my life of late: I turned around and went the back roads through Siesta Isles and to my purple palace. Mildew Manor.

I waited 3 hours for the arrival and finish of the men who were 'assessing' the work to be done to CLEAN my house. They were a contradiction: doom & gloom about getting into my house in the next couple of months..... but LOVING all the details of the house. So, I was flattered amongst feeling a bit overwhelmed. The flattering took much of the sting out of the 3 hours. I was even helping them MEASURE the house with them. Of course: with our MASKS ON !

I had a dentist appointment today. Now you know that I would be dreading that! It can't be anything good: after all I have lost 3 teeth this summer. No surprise there. But, to hear the doom and gloom and to see it in writing was just another nail in the coffin of GOOD THINGS this week.

I have a good attitude, as I know that there is a beginning and an end to these challenges. But, my good attitude might have an expiration date. Not sure.

So, if that were not enough to get my senses aglow: I drove south to Historic Spanish Point to attend a Board Meeting, which of course was cancelled as only one Board member showed: and ME, and I am NOT on the BOARD. That would not have been too bad, except that I have discovered during this rain that my car is no longer water proof!

Chalk up that detail in the myriad of details in life which need attending! Wouldn't seem problematic except we are now living in the RAINY SEASON in Florida! Lucky me.

Hmmm.

happy tuesday to you, too!
and a smile
Judy

Sunday, September 22, 2013

Fairy Godmother to attend Tea Party with the TWINS alla Ritz, this morning!

Sunday, sometime in September, 2013

Hi

I am waiting till I know more on Monday afternoon, which allows me to relax and think no further than that. It is a gift of sorts. I can't worry today about an imagined plight. That makes no sense... leaving me in a state of   'indecision' or suspension, which seems comfy for the minute.

I am enjoying my cocoon in my daughter's home. It is a nice, safe place. I feel protected and hidden.

I took myself to the movies to see a great film "The Spectacular Now"... about self and young love.  The actors were wonderful and engaging and it was a perfect movie to see with a small popcorn filled with butter and half eaten.

I am the 'FAIRY GODMOTHER" to four beautiful FAIRY GOD-KIDS! The family is Jewish and there are no Godparents of such.... but, they wanted me in their family. Voila! I am the FAIRY Godmommy. They call me that. They know me as that. They will refer to me as that. It is very darling. Today, it is 'THE TWINS" annual Birthday TEA PARTY at the Ritz. They have been doing this since their first birthday. They are now SEVEN! A Blonde and A Brunette. Their names are "Madison and Alexandra". I wanted them to be named "Madison and Park".

They are beautiful and they suite their names perfectly, as a mommy would know.
I get to feast on tea sandwiches, yummy deserts.... and oh: tea, too!
Best, I get to see my Mary, Carol, Racheael, Barbara, Emma and the twins! Ages 3 to 66.

All these strong, bright, articulate, nice, caring, well traveled women who love their family and friends..... a bounty for me this morning!

I will quickly search for an appropriate 7 year old TWINS birthday gift. I normally find something..... an inspiration hits! Hope that happens this morning. I'll let you know!

Smiles, from a sunny Sarasota this morning...
Judy

Friday, September 20, 2013

Got my vehicle back, got a GRANDY and DAD visit, and napped during afternoon rain: What a day!

Friday, September something or other, 2013

Hmmmm.

Hmmmm.

I will know more about how to procede with my mildewy home after my insurance appointment with the claims dude. It is now all an adventure, I am thinking as to I haven't a clue on what happens next really. I will approach it as a curiosity in bloom and a learning curve.

I went to see my 93 year old father yesterday. It increased his visitor log by 100% over the past month. Doubled his fan base with yesterday's breakfast visit. He looks good. In fact,he is the BEST LOOKING TOOTHLESS 93 year old I have ever seen.  My gene pool bodes well for me in some departments: I am thinking. He was delighted to see me. I am a female. I am younger. He LOVES MOST younger females. Not the FAT ones, though. He is so mean and superficial. Even today, at his most desperate: no teeth, can't really see, can't hear without his cochlear implant- and even that is sketchy....., walks with a walker, wears a diaper! I haven't seen him in 5 months, as I have been away.

Howard, my Dad asks at least 45 times: "How old am I?" I tell him. Each time, he is amazed. It is always ground-hog day at the memory unit of this retirement facility. Which, by the way is a FABULOUS place for him to be. THE BEST there is.

Then, my Dad asks me if I speak Italian.... at least 38 times.

Then, my Dad tells me "Judy, I want a woman!". LOUDLY, as he speaks as if he has NO COCHLEAR IMPLANT. Then, he says "I want a woman I can have compatible sex with". LOUDLY, at Breakfast!
The nurse's aid heard him and was laughing. My father asked her what was so funny and she said "I didn't expect to hear that this morning!".

To which, I turned to her and said "I am 62 years old, and I DID EXPECT to HEAR that come out of his mouth this morning! Now, how pathetic is that !"

He had a girlfriend for a second with whom he attempted to become frisky! He says, LOUDLY, "She is UGLY". So, I am now telling Howard.... my father....that he needs to be more specific when asking for a woman. He must say "I want a PRETTY, SKINNY woman".

I think he has an inflated sense of self.... which I am not sure how well it serves him at this point in his life.

He said that I didn't seem to empathetic with him about the fact that he hates it there. I said that what I could do for him is to VISIT him. That is my gift to him. I can't do anything else about anything else. Actually, my visits to him are for my GRANDMOThER, his mom- who was my savior, from an angst filled pubescence.
She took me traveling and made me into a travel junkie. And gave me a sense of self! She gave me that bar.

Got my car last evening. Did some work for some travel clients. Took a nap, along with Carlyle. Good lazy in-sync family energy. And... visited with 'my first born'ASTRID'" and her baby, "FIN". He is so cute. He is so sweet and cherubic looking, filled with michieveous laughter... he kept flicking his tongue at Curry, to beg for kisses! And, then he would just giggle. I love my baby grand-son, as I am Pip and Fin's GRANDY. (Pip is 4. Fin is 1) So, I got to visit with Astrid, which is always like 'coming home'.... and I got to get some lovin' on FIN. How good is life!

Onward and upward. I am having a movieaholic attack! I just satiated my Thai food, my SUSHI, BBQ palate pleasers.....this past week.

smiles and happy weekend
Judy





Thursday, September 19, 2013

The universe may be sending me a message

Hi

I have been silenced: caught off guard and almost speechless.

I spent the last week at my son's home in the Berkshire Mountains. Verdant greens, vertical greens, rolling hills and country roads. The leaves just beginning to FALL for FALL. .... and just turning those glorious shades of reds, oranges and bright yellows. Just lovely and oh so different from Florida: flat, linear, concrete. Green and blue of the sky and water. Also beautiful. Fills a different part of the soul.

Didn't do much but 'hang' with George.... shopping at thrift stores for vintage clothes that he is in need for he is costuming a local movie. It is fun to watch him 'cull' the racks. I am slowly and elementary beginning to comprehend what kind of organizing must happen for each scene of a movie. The details are staggering, really. I also helped him begin to organize his workshop at Simon's Rock College: costume warehousing. Spend a day with George's college friends: and his God daughter, Kennedy- who is just 3 and too cute. White spun golden hair with locks of ringlets. Sweet, transluscent and innocently whispy.

Enjoyed my days with George. With George and Carlyle. And, with George and his new best friend. What a privilege!

I was hesitating about coming home. After all, if not: it wouldn't have taken me 2 weeks to accomplish what I could have done in a twenty four hour day! I took a most prolonged circuitous turn from Milan to Sarasota. But, a good one!

So, my first 48 hours in Sarasota arrival on Monday evening didn't bode well as a welcome, BENVENUTO.
1. There was no electricity
2. There was no water
3. The car battery was dead, so I couldn't even get into the vehicle.
4. There was mildew everywhere.... 5 weeks without air/conditioning!
5. There was mildew in my car.
6. The motor service folks couldn't jump my car because the key to the trunk didn't open the trunk.
7. I was told that it was not safe for me to be in my home
8. I was told that it would take over a month to clean my home
9. I was told that it would cost more than $10,000 to clean my home
10. My car had to be towed to the auto repair
11. I needed a new battery. Got one
12. I turned on half of the electric. The other half, I waited a day for an electrician to arrive and JIGGLE the outside breaker box. After 40 years in the same house: I NEVER knew there were breaker boxes OUTSIDE my house. The 'LICENSED" Jiggler : oh, yes: electrician..... jiggled long enough, all of my electricity now works.
13. I have water.
14. My car is getting de-mildewed.
15. I LOST a THIRD TOOTH on SUSHI! Gummy bears AND Sushi? What wimps my teeth are!
16. I had the second one replaced back into my mouth.
17. I have been told that my insurance will cover the $10,000 cleaning bill.
18. Still no word on when I can get back into the house.
19. I was home-less, until my daughter took me 'in'.
20. My daughter is a saint: I am using her home, her car, her telephone.....Her boyfriend is great, too.

So ... the moral of the story is this: I have been waivering on how to procede to the next stage in life. This has made the 'separation' a much more palatable prospect. That is my message and my 'take away'. The angst of taking that first step: was usurped from me in a most fortuitous way.

That is today's story , and I am sticking to it!

Smiles back at ya!
Judy


Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Losing teeth is not a good weight loss regimen

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Awakening to a misty morning in the Berkshires, with an abundance of trees, evergreens and rolling verdant hills (that are called mountains)

The first night here, I chewed on a Haribou GUMMY BEAR. One gummy bear. One chew: and out came a tooth. A GUMMY BEAR! Aren't they supposed to be 'innocent'? So, yesterday had me finding a dentist (actually a friend up here in the Berkshires) and I was able to salvage the tooth.Yeah for small favors- as I crumbled a tooth in Italy a month ago while using my teeth as a tool to open a plastic bottle of shampoo! At 62, I learned my lesson- teeth are not TOOLS, they are 'chompers' for food and NOT Gummy Bears.

Georgie worked at Simon's Rock College, as he teaches costume design at his alma matter. Owned by Bard College in New York, Simon's Rock is a very cool institution indeed. It is the only and FIRST college to be a college for "younger scholars"- an "early college", as they take kids who have completed their 10th grade and accept them into college. Therefore, all the students are from 16-20, and the 450+ of them go to college with their social peers. These are bright bright 'out of the box' kids who don't love the high school experience and want to continue their education in a different setting. A great example of an 'out of the box' student is the fact that the COHEN brothers: Ethan and Joel went to Simon's Rock (of "No country for old men" of movie "Fargo"- the list goes on and on)

That left Carlyle and I to navigate Great Barrington: starting with THAI lunch. It has been 5 months since I have had Thai food, and love love love the coconut soup. It was total palate pleasure and a delight to have my daughter all to myself. Went shopping for food.... and then were joined for dinner with George. A PALEO meatloaf. It was super good. Followed by the funny movie "A BIG WEDDING" with Diane Keaton, Robert DeNiro, Susan Sarandon, Topher Grace, Katherine Heigl and Amanda Siefried: I laughed and enjoyed my time with my kidlets. In George's bed... sprawled out.... eating delicious (seems like an oxymoron) gluten -free chocolate chip cookies. They were so good: I had 4 of them. After 5 months of different kinds of sweets, it was total YUM.

Today, Carlyle leaves for Sarasota- and I will have had just TWO SWEET DAYS with my two babies. However short- it was a total mommy's delight!

I must always remember it is about the BOUNTY, not the LACK which is important.

Hoping that yours is a grand Wednesday,

Smiles and keep clicking. Tell your friends, too! please.

Judy

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Choo Choo to Western Mass.

Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

Hi,

I am in Monterey, Mass.... a stone's throw from Great Barrington in the Berkshire Mountains. 20 minutes from both the Connecticut and New York state borders. There is a darling GENERAL STORE here in Monterey, with divine home made goodies and the look, smell and feel of a wooden store from the 50's. Nostaglic and handy dandy.

The air is cool, almost COLD for this Floridian gal. Took Amtrak train from South Boston on the LAKE TRAIN which continues to Chicago overnight. It was like an old time experience, with the conductor paying attention to your requests and needs. They sell blow up pillows and a blanket for the overnight journey for $8.00.... for those who do not book an actual bed on board. They were friendly and solicitous which makes for a cruise on land kind of experience (albeit, no water and no free food included) It took almost 4 hours via rail to arrive in Pitsfield, MA.... where a car would have taken half that time. It only made 4 stops, but was a leisurely way to travel, sleeping most of the way and reading long ignored PEOPLE magazine.

Watched the hiney picking NADAL and Djokovic last evening in a most exciting US OPEn tennis final. Didn't watch the end, as my kids preferred watching The Next Top Drag Queen on television.
The judges were Pamela Anderson and Jennifer Tilly among others! Television has certainly changed since SKY KING and Penny.

I had a tooth fall out from chomping on a Haribo GUMMY BEAR! Really? So, I might be in persuit of a dentist today. It is great being with my two babies - no longer babies, but forever in my heart: babies of mine. It has been far too long since I had both of them together. I knew it would be this way- as they grew and have lives of their own, but always seized the opportunity to have them close for as long as I could in ITALY for the summers.

It has just started to rain buckets outside. Dreary. Perhaps it will inspire an early morning nap.

Hope yours is a wonderful Tuesday. It is election day in NYC for mayoral race.  I am a New Yorker, but I must say that it is a strange list of candidates who are vying for that position.

Smiles,
Judy